The Way it is

Posted by: Shreeya Shakya

It was just one of those lousy days, when you sit and watch the same stupid old movie you watched over a dozen times before and still have the patience to watch it all over again, scene by scene with an intense curiosity of what’s gonna happen next, when you already know what it is. Just those days, when after watching the movie, you switch channels on TV in an infinite loop! 1..2..3..4..55..56..1..2..3..4..55…56. I was desperately hunting for something to really amuse me. Then the button on my …

………remote controller made a screeching stop on BBC showcasing a documentary highlighting the massively increasing population imbalance in China.

Statistics has it that within a few decades, there will be around 40 million more men than women in China, creating a huge imbalance in the Chinese demographics. This unevenness stems in the Chinese government policy of bearing only a single child. And with the Chinese outlook of favoring son over daughter and with the desertion of female fetus, this government policy has gone horribly wrong for China. One of the lines from the documentary that really amused me was, ‘For Chinese men, there just aren’t enough women to go out with.. .’. I could only give out an involuntary smirk on that remark.

With the problem more prominent in rural China, there was a destitute village boy featured in the show, who spent more than he could earn on a jacket in vain hopes of impressing any girl in his friend’s marriage that took place in his village after eons. He and his family had sold out few of their remaining cattle to buy this leather jacket only all their efforts were futile. I just couldn’t stop laughing out loud on that.. Few decades ago, there you were murdering female fetuses, abandoning female infants to die on their own, inch by inch and now…… What a pity! Only wish those fetuses didn’t die!

However just as my laughter was involuntary an action, it wasn’t to last long. With the problem of fewer women over men, it has drawn major consequences of women trafficking, kidnapping, rape and other heinous acts! There was this village girl (village girls suffering more than city women due to illiteracy) who was sold for few bucks to become wife of a person who couldn’t find one on his own. She was raped, beaten and had even made two failed suicide attempts.

I thought nothing has really changed over the decades, just the numbers! A decade ago, it were females who were being murdered, abandoned, abused and a decade later, for the small number of surviving females over males, again they are the ones to be abused. Then the century old question popped up in my head, why is it always women who are at the receiving end of abuse, harassment and prejudice? I am not necessarily a feminist. I am rather a firm believer in individualism. I am like ‘this’ not because I am a girl or a guy, I am like this because I ‘am’ this. But the fact that, most of the time if not ‘always’, women are the victims (though I must admit men specially younger men/boys have had their share of abuse) vexes me to a point I want to scream and yell ‘if Men are from Mars and women from Venus, why didn’t they stay there! Why did they have to land on earth to create all the chaos!!!!’

The Way it is was last modified: June 29th, 2007 by Shreeya Shakya

Blog Comments

  1. sundeep

    dude justin, you dont know what i am talking about ok so dont make comments on things you dont know about. shreeya told me the article was a feminist article. do you see any in that??

  2. prabes

    Well, I don’t know for sure if we are still working on it but I think I have to agree with what shreeya has to offer here. She is talking about awareness, she is not talking about women sentiment or anything, at least that’s what I got from her article, she is not talking about mother nature, she is talking about human nature here or specifically asian nature.

    And pawan, don’t expect others to clear the mess you have made. That’s what wrong with us, we expect others to clear our mess. We expect nature to balance itself for the thing we have done. We all know what are the consequences, then why we do things like that.

    I will come and write more if you want me to but I don’t know whether this link is active.

  3. shreeya

    pawan.. quoting you ‘That is understood in feminist’s view..’ listen … if voicing against rape and such other sexual harassment, you consider it as being FEMINIST. then i have a strong objection to that. it is crime against humanity.. i can only pity at your attitude and perception..

    i am not a fool. i am very aware of the fact that as long as there are savage men, women will fall prey victims of such ppl regardless of the ratio… only there was a recent news.. 10 women were raped by 3 men in Rautahat last tuesday night!! 10 women by 3 men… how insane is that!

    and i think i didnt put it correctly or u misjudged it pawan regarding ur statement.. ‘I think nature has always balancing act, and this time she has found one that is The DESERTION OF FEMALE FETUS.’ no! its not nature.. its ppl who did that.. the parents when they had a baby girl. they deserted her in river bank to die on their own or deserted the fetus before birth… also i think i read somewhere abt the orphanage homes in china housing such deserted baby grls… nature can never do that.. we call her ‘Mother’ Nature..remember ????

  4. GirlsEmpowerment

    Pawan, you are so perfectly correct. Indians second largest population in this world was looking for women to marry more voraciously in neighboring countries including Nepal (More women then men, so numerous unmarried women some researchers published). Nepalese women should now go to CHINA/INDIA to lead there, if more nepalese men are not allowing them to compete here. Nepalese have been giving birth to more women because they are lazy and girls work! Most household jobs, agriculture, and most regular town jobs are being held by women in Nepal, as lazy men play cards, spend money, drink, yell, jump, and cry. Women have still the rarest chance of yielding results from education. Shreeya, you have been an advocate of womenhood for years, and I am proud of you girl that you will do something in future, lest becoming first women PM, try it. Only then new women hopes can hope to survive and fight against Feutus Abortion either male or female.

  5. pawan

    “With the problem of fewer women over men, it has drawn major consequences of women trafficking, kidnapping, rape and other heinous acts…”

    That is understood in feminist’s view, but miserably failed to present the bigger picture out there. Shreeya if you are worried that you can be a victim of rape because of the huge imbalance then you are a fool. World’s must populous countries India, Indonesia, Pakistan has same figure and what happen in next 30 years is the main point. More the male, less the space per male (in terms of female, competition, ego etc). The proximity and compactification of male ego will definitely going to make violent fight for space. Think this, BIG WAR happening every five years.

    I think nature has always balancing act, and this time she has found one that is The DESERTION OF FEMALE FETUS.

  6. sundeep

    shreeya, make a point. where is a feminism? i dont see any. you are just describing what you saw on the tv. what is this article about. i find it less than impressive..

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