Men want power and women want love

Posted by: Rudra Pandey

In general, men want power and women want love. I have found this to be the case everyday/everywhere. Men do things in search of power and women in search of love. They may do different things but the ultimate goal is “power” for men and “love” for women. I want this theory to be challenged by readers/bloggers via online comments. I back my idea with the following series of statements:

Men want power
Men try to fall in love to exhibit power
Men try to win love to show power
Men seek education to gain power
Men seek professional promotion to become powerful
Men want beautiful wives so that they can boast
Men go to politics in search of power
Defeated men seek divorce

Women want love
Women fall in love for the sake of love and nothing else
Women want to be loved and they submit to those who love them
Women seek better education to find better men and to win love
Women want professional promotion to keep their love
Women just want a loving husband
Women go to politics in search of love
Hated women seek divorce

I want readers to try to observe these characteristics and comment openly here so that we can salute women for their love and sacrifices.

Men want power and women want love was last modified: January 15th, 2014 by Rudra Pandey

Blog Comments

  1. sangharsha

    In a very general sense, I agree with the title, but I don’t agree in these points about women:
    – Women seek better education to find better men and to win love
    – Women want professional promotion to keep their love
    – Women go to politics in search of love.
    These points are exaggerated.

  2. lpk

    By birth, men are supposed to be power savvy, and female are supposed to be love savvy.Those female who love power are male-like and Males who like love are female like.Women’s love helps Male in getting Power. Females in power do not necessarily have Male’s love involved:Example Benajair Bhuuto, Margaret Thacther, Indira Gandhi. Bill Gates being such a powerful buddy has love of melinda in him that has surpassed everybody, and their love has cherised as Bill-Melinda gates Foundation that is helping billions of Dollar for poors,needy, HIVs.Microsoft is Bill gate’s Power and BM Foundation is Melinda’s love. I too have ambition to create Lava-Menuka Foundation to help poor and needy in nepal who cannot pursue better studies and get better jobs, as a love symbol for my wife Menuka!!! , but my power is my job and her love helps in attaining my pursuits in my career. If she felt that she is power- hungry, she could have hear own ambitions and two horses of our chariot would be moving in different directions.Her support to me certainly helps our common chariot to reach a common goal with her sacrifice of love , else, it is non-deterministic.
    In other analogy and the truth, Women’s love is their power and as long as they have love in them, they need not seek extra power, as Love is the most powerful entity that constructs and destructs anything in Universe as “MAYA” is supreme, which is love and nothing else. So, everything is fake “MAYA” or love is the truth, so, love is power and power is love intended to be fathomed by the two sexes differently.

  3. Biochem

    Search sexual selection in google and read it.

    Males want sex, females want sexy kid. thats it. Nobody wants love as a destiny, it is just the medium to get sex for males and ‘sexy-son’ for females.
    Males love sex and exploit it. Females love sex too but cannot exploit because they have to bear the offsprings.


    men court with their ‘power’ for sex. So if this courting is successful, usually it is, then this proves that women like power. So for successful courting,i.e. sex, men want power.

    conclusion: men want power. men accept love to get opportunity to have sex. women want love so that they can take care of offsprings.

    Its a selfish world.

  4. Mamta Sharma

    The only difference between man and woman is that woman carry the child – and men can’t do that NOT YET – unless of course technology advances thus so far to make it happen someday!

    I agree with The Hobo that man and woman both want the same. And, as for “bad leader” there we see it in both – There is always good to bad and vice versa. All the women leaders had something good and belived in leading the country – there can be bad decision that ultimately becomes the set back and it can happen to both Man and Women. There are MEN dictators, so singling out women leader does not proof the point.
    The point is again both man and women seek the same and how you attain them is the difference!

  5. ♥The Hobo♥

    Wow what a debate… I totally disagree with this. Men do not always seek for power and nor do women always seek for love. Men and women aren’t as different as everyone else thinks. Men also want love and women also want power. Yet, I believe this because of the pressure; when one woman/man steps up to do something they always want to be topped it’s the same trend over and over again. We all want power through love, wealth, etc.
    ♥The Hobo♥

  6. bad leaders

    Indira Gandhi, Margarate Thatcher, Golda Meir – all were “Stronger” than men (in the bad sense of the world).Indira Gandhi imposed an state of emergency and attacked the Golden Temple (an act even Bush would have hesistated in), Margaret Thatcher has her infamous Falkland war, and Golda Meir ordered cold-blodded assasinations. They were all power hungry. Perhaps in a male dominated political landscape, women have to be more ‘manly’ than men to rise.

  7. Mamta Sharma

    Some feedback from a woman

    The real power lies in the hands of the women because they are mother of all men and women.

    Prance men are just the puppets in the hands of whimsical women.

    Men want loving wife just as women want loving husband
    Not all men are power hungry and women also want power
    and success.

    But the fact is women rule…
    Case in point “Indira Gandhi” , “Goldamayer”, “Magaret Thacher”
    “Bhandar Nayake”
    Coming soon – Hillary Clinton

  8. Dhilung

    I liked Dovan D’s take.

    “So it’s egotism and violence ruling than care and compassion.”

    This must be why all most all pro gamers (computer) are male. All most all games are themed under egotism, violence and power.
    May be its time for EA sports to start developing some games under the theme “care and compassion” and Carmack to learn something from Sheldon taking a break from Quake series.

  9. ashikmalla

    Why Women Cry A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?” “Because I’m a woman,” she told him. “I don’t understand,” he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.” Later, the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?” All women cry for no reason,” was all his dad could say. The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, “God, why do women cry so easily?” God said: “When I made the woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children. I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.” “You see my son,” said God, “the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”

  10. ashikmalla

    Al-Geood ,First woman wins Bahrain parliament seat
    Six women already serve in Bahrain’s upper chamber of parliament, but they were appointed, not elected. Under Bahraini law, al-Geood’s uncontested candidacy amounts to an electoral victory.

  11. ashikmalla

    Political Participation
    • Out of over 180 countries, only 12 are currently headed by women:
    o Nino Burzhanadze, Acting President of Georgia
    o Helen Clark, Prime Minister of New Zealand
    o Tarja Halonen, President of Finland
    o Chandrika Kumaratunga, President of Sri Lanka
    o Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo, President of the Philippines
    o Mary McAleese, President of Ireland
    o Natasa Micic, Acting President of the Republic of Serbia
    o Mireya Moscoso, President of Panama
    o Maria das Neves Ceita Baptista de Sousa, Prime Minister of the Democratic Republic of Sâo Tomé and Príncipe
    o Megawati Sukarnoputri, President of Indonesia
    o Vaira Vike-Freiberga, President of Latvia
    o Khaleda Zia, Prime Minister of Bangladesh

    • Other women leaders in government include
     5 Vice Presidents:
    o Milagros Ortiz Bosch, Vice President of the Dominican Republic
    o Lineth Saborio Chaverri, First Vice President of Costa Rica
    o Annette Lu, Vice President of Taiwan
    o Sandra Sumang Pierantozzi, Vice President of Palau
    o Aisatou N’Jie Saidy, Vice President of The Gambia

     4 Governor-Generals:
    o Silvia Cartwright, Governor-General of New Zealand
    o Adrienne Clarkson, Governor-General of Canada
    o Ivy Dumont, Governor-General of the Bahamas
    o Pearlette Louisy, Governor-General of Saint Lucia

     4 Major Opposition Leaders:
    o Sonia Gandhi, Leader of the Congress Party, India
    o Aung San Suu Kyi, Leader of the National League for Democracy, Burma
    o Angela Merkel, Leader of the CDU, Germany
    o Jenny Shipley, Leader of the National Party, New Zealand

    • 15.4% of members of national Parliaments worldwide are women.
    • Women hold only 6.4% of the seats in Arab states’ Parliaments, and 14.4% of the seats in sub-Saharan African nations’ Parliaments. Women hold 17.6% of seats in national Parliaments in Europe and 18.5% of seats in the Americas.
    • Rwanda has the highest proportion of women parliamentarians in the world with the National Assembly comprised of 49% women. This followed the passage of a constitutional referendum guaranteeing a minimum of 30% of parliamentary seats and other leadership positions to women.
    • In 1995, Sweden became the first country to have an equal number of women and men in ministerial posts. At present, however, the Swedish cabinet is below parity with 45% women ministers.
    • In the developing countries of Mozambique, Vietnam, and Namibia, 30%, 27.3%, and 26.4%, respectively, of seats in the Lower House of Parliament are held by women.
    • On the other hand, in the developed nations of USA, France, and Japan, 14.3%, 12.2%, and 7.1%, respectively, of the House of Representatives or Lower House of Parliament are comprised of women.
    • Austria was the only State to have elected a woman to the presidency of one of the Parliament’s Chambers (the Bundesrat) before the Second World War.
    • Currently, 26 women preside over one of the Houses of the 178 existing Parliaments, 64 of which are bicameral.
    • Quota systems are being established in some countries to ensure greater participation of women in decision-making.
     Reserved Seats:
    o In Jordan, women activists launched a campaign in November 2002 advocating for reserved seats to help increase the number of women parliamentarians.
    o In Morocco, 10% of parliamentary seats are reserved for women. (Following the October 2002 elections, the number of female parliamentarians increased from two to an Arab-world record of 35.)
    o In India, 33% of seats at the local government level are reserved for women.
    o In Tanzania, 20% of national seats and 25% of local government seats are reserved for women.

     Legislated Quota for Political Parties:
    o In France, a 1999 constitutional amendment requires political parties to include 50% of women candidates on party lists submitted for election.
    o In South Africa, a municipal act states that political parties must ensure women comprise 50% of lists submitted for local-level elections.

     Voluntary Quota Adopted by Political Parties:
    o In Norway, the Labour Party in 1993 introduced a 40% quota for women.
    o In Sweden, the Social Democratic Party in 1994 introduced the (zebra) principle of listing a woman on every second line of the party list.

    • Women ministers remain concentrated in social areas (14%) compared to legal (9.4%), economic (4.1%), political affairs (3.4%), and the executive (3.9%).
    • 7% of the world’s total cabinet ministers are women.
    • There are 36 women ambassadors to the United Nations. They are from Algeria, Australia, Burkina Faso, Costa Rica, Egypt, Estonia, Finland, Kenya, Kyrgyzstan, Malaysia, Mexico, Sri Lanka, Sweden, Thailand, and Turkmenistan, among others.
    • In the United Nations system, women hold only 9% of the top management jobs and 21% of senior management positions, but 48% of the junior professional civil service slots.
    • In 1893, New Zealand became the first nation to grant women full voting rights.
    • Among the countries in the developing world that were the earliest to grant women the right to vote were:
     Albania (1920)
     Mongolia (1924)
     Ecuador (1929)
     Turkey (1930)
     Sri Lanka (1931).

    • Some of the latest countries to grant women suffrage are:
     Switzerland (1971)
     Iraq (1980)
     Namibia (1989)
     Kazakhstan (1994).

    • In the 21st century, some countries still do not have universal suffrage. Among them are Brunei Darussalam, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, and United Arab Emirates.
    • Among the developing nations who have not ratified the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) are:
     Palestine
     Qatar
     Saudi Arabia
     Sultanate of Oman
     United Arab Emirates.

    • The United States is the only industrialized nation that has not ratified CEDAW.
    …. Economic Decision-Making
    • Women’s participation in higher levels of economic decision-making remains minuscule, even in the West.
    • Only 1% of the world’s assets are in the name of women.
    • Men in the Arab states have 3.5 times the purchasing power of their female counterparts.
    • 70% of people in abject poverty– living on less than $1 per day– are women.
    • Women around the world continue to be significantly under-represented in the higher paid, higher prestige sectors of the workforce.
    • Among the developed countries, in France only 9% of the workforce and in the Netherlands 20% of the workforce are female administrators and managers.
    • Among the developing countries, in Ecuador and the Bahamas, 33% of the workforce is comprised of women administrators and managers.
    • Women’s participation in managerial and administrative posts is around 33% in the developed world, l5% in Africa, and 13% in Asia and the Pacific. In Africa and Asia-Pacific these percentages, small as they are, reflect a doubling of numbers in the last twenty years.
    • In the United States, more than one-third of all women-headed households fall below the poverty line.

    • There are only 5 women chief executives in the Fortune 500 corporations, the most valuable publicly owned companies in the United States. These include the CEOs of Xerox, Spherion, Hewlett-Packard, Golden West Financial, and Avon Products.
    • In Silicon Valley, for every 100 shares of stock options owned by a man, only one share is owned by a woman.

    Catalyst,, Accessed August 3, 2001; Azza Karam, et al., Women in Parliament: Beyond Numbers (Stockholm, Sweden: International Institute for Democracy and Electoral Assistance, 1998); Marci McDonald, “A Start-Up of Her Own,” in U.S. News & World Report (May 15, 2000); United Nations, The World’s Women 2000: Trends and Statistics (New York: United Nations, 2000); United Nations Development Fund for Women (UNIFEM), Progress of the World’s Women 2000: UNIFEM Biennial Report (New York, UNIFEM, 2000); United Nations Development Programme, Human Development Report 2003 (New York: Oxford University Press, 2003); Inter-Parliamentary Union,, Updated May 2004; Women World Leaders,, Accessed January 2003.

    Technology Facts
    • The Internet is the fastest-growing tool of communication ever.
    • It took radio broadcasters 38 years to reach an audience of 50 million, television 13 years, and the Internet just 4 years.
    • 70% of the world’s Internet users are based in Europe and North America. More than half of them are based in the United States alone.
    • The United States, with a population close to the population of the Middle East, has 166 million Internet users while the Middle East has only 5.1 million.
    • The typical Internet user worldwide is male, under 35 years old, urban-based, speaks English, has a university education and a high income – a member of an elite minority.
    • Only 6% of Internet users in the Arab States are women. In Latin America 38% of Internet users are women, and in the EU only 25% of users are women. 37% of Internet users in China, 19% in Russia, 18% in Japan, 17% in South Africa, and nearly 50% of Internet users in the United States are women.
    • South Asia, with 23% of the world’s people, has less than 1% of the world’s Internet users.

    • The number of Internet users in the Arab world is doubling every year. By 2003, there are expected to be 12 million Internet users in the region.
    • Young, well-educated men form the majority of the 250,000 Internet users in Morocco.
    • Nearly 85% of all websites are in English. Yet less than 10% of people worldwide speak English.
    • At the end of the 20th century, 90% of data on Africa was stored in Europe and the United States.
    • About 379 million people around the world now have Internet access from home.
    • The United States has more computers than the rest of the world combined.
    • A computer costs the average Bangladeshi more than eight years’ income, compared with one month’s wage for the average American.
    • In several African countries the average monthly cost of Internet connection and use runs as high as US$100, compared to $10 in the United States.
    • Thailand has more cellular phones than the whole of Africa.
    • A quarter of the world’s countries still do not have one telephone per 100 people.
    • In developed countries, there is an average of two phones per person. Africa, with a population of over 700 million people, has fewer than 14 million phones.

    United Nations Development Programme, Human Development Report 2000 (New York: Oxford University Press, 2000); United Nations Development Programme, Human Development Report 1999 (New York: Oxford University Press, 1999); NUA Internet Surveys,, Accessed May 5, 2001; International Labour Organization, World Employment Report (Geneva: International Labour Office, 2001); Dabbagh Information Technology Group,, Accessed May 5, 2001.

    Inequitable Distribution
    • Among the 4.4 billion people who live in developing countries
    o THREE-FIFTHS have no access to basic sanitation
    o Almost ONE-THIRD are without safe drinking water
    o ONE-QUARTER lack adequate housing
    o ONE-FIFTH live beyond reach of modern health services
    o ONE-FIFTH of the children do not get as far as grade five in school
    o ONE-FIFTH are undernourished

    • The 3 RICHEST PEOPLE in the world own assets that exceed the combined gross national product of ALL LEAST DEVELOPED COUNTRIES and their 600 million people.
    • The richest 20% of the world’s population enjoys a share in global income that is 86 times that of the poorest 20%.
    • More than 1.2 billion people in the world live on less that $1 a day. More than 50% of them are children. Nearly 1 billion cannot meet their basic consumption requirements.
    • The assets of the 200 richest people are more than the combined income of 41% of the world’s people.

    A yearly contribution of 1% of their wealth or $8 billion could provide universal access to primary education for all.
    • Industrialized countries hold 97% of all patents, and global corporations hold 90% of all technology and product patents.
    • Over 80% of foreign direct investment in developing and transtition economies goes to just 20 countries, with China receiving the maximum share.
    • Debt relief for the 20 worst affected countries would cost between US $5.5 billion to $7.7 billion, LESS than the cost of ONE stealth bomber.
    ….Inequitable Consumption
    • Basic education for all would cost $6 BILLION a year;

    $8 BILLION is spent annually for cosmetics in the United States alone.
    • Installation of water and sanitation for all would cost $9 BILLION plus some annual costs;

    $11 BILLION is spent annually on ice cream in Europe.
    • Reproductive health services for all women would cost $12 BILLION a year;

    $12 BILLION a year is spent on perfumes in Europe and the United States.
    • Basic health care and nutrition would cost $13 BILLION;

    $17 BILLION a year is spent on pet food in Europe and the United States.
    • $35 BILLION is spent on business entertainment in Japan;
    $50 BILLION on cigarettes in Europe;
    $105 BILLION on alcoholic drinks in Europe;
    $400 BILLION on narcotic drugs around the world; and
    $780 BILLION on the world’s militaries.
    • 20% of the world’s people in industrialized countries account for 86% of total private consumption expenditures,
    while the poorest 20% account for 1.3%
    • The overall consumption of the richest 20% of the world’s people is 16 times that of the poorest 20%.
    • The share of the poorest 20% of the world’s people in global income is 1.1%, down from 1.4% in 1991.
    • There are 16 cars per 1,000 people in developing countries and 405 cars per 1,000 people in industrialized countries.
    • On average, developing countries have one doctor for every 6,000 people whereas industrialized countries have one for every 350 people.

    United Nations Development Programme, Human Development Report 2000 (New York: Oxford University Press, 2000); ________, Human Development Report 1999 (New York: Oxford University Press, 1999); ________, Human Development Report 1998 (New York: Oxford University Press, 1998).

    Human Rights
    • Women are often denied voice or power over the most fundamental human decisions, such as whether and when to bear children, to get an education, or to go to work.
    • 855,000,000 people in the world are illiterate. 70% of them are female.
    • Two-thirds of the world’s children who receive less than four years of education are girls.
    • For every year beyond fourth grade that girls go to school, family size drops 20%, child deaths drop 10%, and wages rise 20%; yet, international aid dedicated to education is declining.
    • Worldwide, more than half the population of women over age 15 cannot read or write.
    • Girls represent nearly 60% of the children not in school.
    • Even when women have equal years of education, it does not translate into economic opportunities or political power.
    • While women in Nigeria enjoy 53% literacy, in Morocco 34%, and in Palestine 77%, their participation in politics and the economy lag far behind.

    ….Health & Family
    • Worldwide, women suffer greater malnutrition than men.
    • 600,000 women — one every minute — die each year from pregnancy-related causes. Most of these deaths are preventable.
    • As children, girls are often undervalued, fed less, and given inadequate healthcare.
    • Parents in countries such as China and India sometimes use sex determination tests to find out if their fetus is a girl. Of 8000 fetuses aborted at a Bombay clinic, 7999 were female.

    • In the Global South, women traditionally eat last and least. They do not get more to eat even during pregnancy and nursing.
    • Nearly half of all people living with HIV/AIDS are women and girls.
    • 510,000 children under the age of 15 died of HIV/AIDS in 1998. Today, almost 1.2 million children under the age of 15 are living with HIV/AIDS.
    • In some countries, the HIV/AIDS infection rates for 15- to 19-year old girls are 3 to 6 times higher than for boys.
    • Every day 7000 young persons are infected with HIV/AIDS.

    • Worldwide, women’s work in the home is not counted as work.
    • 90% of the rural female labor force are called “housewives” and excluded from the formal definition of economic activity.
    • Women work– on average and across the world– more hours than men each week, sometimes as much as 35 hours more, but their work is often unpaid and unaccounted for.
    • Where women do the same work as men, they are paid 30 to 40 percent less than men.
    • There is no country in the world where women’s wages are equal to those of men.

    In the U.K., Italy, Germany, and France women are paid 75% of men’s wages, whereas in Vietnam, Sri Lanka, Tanzania, and Australia women earn 90% of men’s wages.
    • Women produce nearly 80% of the food on the planet, but receive less than 10% of agricultural assistance.
    • In most places in the world, work is segregated by sex. Women tend to be in clerical, sales and domestic services, and men in manufacturing and transport.
    • Women occupy only 2% of senior management positions in business.
    • Women’s participation in managerial and administrative posts is around 33% in the developed world, l5% in Africa, and 13% in Asia and the Pacific. In Africa and Asia-Pacific these percentages, small as they are, reflect a doubling of numbers in the last twenty years.

    ….Human Security
    • Wars today affect civilians most, since they are civil wars, guerrilla actions and ethnic disputes over territory or government. 3 out of 4 fatalities of war are women and children.
    • Over the past decade, armed conflict has killed 2 million children, disabled 4 to 5 million, left 12 million homeless and more than 1 million orphaned or separated from their parents.
    • In times of conflict, women and children are sometimes sold into forced servitude and slavery.
    • 75% of the refugees and internally displaced in the world are women who have lost their families and their homes.
    • In the former Yugoslavia, 20,000 women and girls were raped during the first months of the war.
    • In the last decade there were about 300,000 child soldiers.
    • There are approximately 250 million child labourers worldwide: Asia accounts for 153 million and Africa for 80 million.

    • Historically women have been denied the knowledge, the means, and the freedom to act in their own and their children’s best interests.
    • The majority of the world’s women cannot own, inherit, or control property, land, and wealth on an equal basis with men.
    • In the 1990s, only 13% of national lawmakers in the world were women, increasing just marginally from 11% in the 1970s.
    • The Philippines’ Anti-Rape Act of 1997, which took 9 years to pass, expanded the definition of rape making it a public criminal offense.

    Gender Voilence
    • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury and death for women worldwide.
    • Only 1 in 100 battered women in the U.S. reports the abuse she suffers. Every nine seconds, a woman is battered by her domestic partner.
    • 59% of Japanese women are victims of domestic violence. In Kenya, 42% of women and in Pakistan, 80% of women experience violence within the home.
    • Everyday, 6000 girls are genitally mutilated.
    • Every year in India, 5000 brides are murdered or commit suicide because their marriage dowries are considered inadequate.
    • In Russia, half of all murder victims are women killed by their male partners.
    • In South Africa, a woman is raped every 80 seconds.
    • In the U.S., one in five women will be victims of rape in her lifetime. A woman is raped every 3 minutes.
    • Every day in Manila, a woman reports rape.
    • One-third of women in Barbados, Canada, the Netherlands, New Zealand, and Norway are sexually abused during childhood.

  12. ashikmalla

    Dear Friends
    Most of the print & electronic media propagate sexual vulgarity & stereotype men and women.
    Most newpapers, magazines, films, book,predictions like Numerology and Astrology and TV serials confuse its viewers on relationships. Men & Women are stereotyped. They tell us how men behave & how women behave. As though we don’t know ! Myths generated by media : Men dont cry; women talk a LOT. Men earn; women spend. Men are bread winners, women child care takers. Men means sex; women means shopping. Is that true?? NO. We humans are highly intellectual social animals. When men & women mingle with each other, they SHARE. Share ideas on how to survive in the competitive market. Share on how to think alike. The truth is: Men do cry, men are great child care takers, men are good listeners, men are talkative, men do like shopping, men are emotional & it’s not always sex they talk about. Truth is: Women are earning & saving money for needy days, women are practical, women do talk only when needed, they do shop only what they need, women don’t always like heavy make ups.

    Don’t fall into the trap of false media reporting. Go out and mingle to know people’s mentality & just don’t put them on other planets like Mars & Venus when humans belong to Earth

  13. mabi

    Here are two sayings and you can figure out who is more powerful.

    1. Let men say what ever they will,
    Women, women rule them still !

    2. If you listen to a women, you are a fool, if you don’t, you are a bigger fool.

    NB: I forgot who said these.

  14. pretty girls make graves

    Don’t get angry Rudraji.

    SP is just taunting you.

    and he hides! but we all know that he’s not going to get far in life hiding like that.

    Speaking from behind a veil, just like a woman…

    The real Lebowski to the dude who also happens to be a Lebowski – What makes a man, Mr. Lebowski, Is it Courage? Is it the integrity to do the right thing no matter what?

    The dude: Yeah, that and a pair of testicles.

    So here we are. That’s the major difference between men and women. courage. in other words, BALLS, capitalized.


  15. Rudra Pandey

    S.P. jee – whoever you are, you have shown your courage passing comments hiding behind the curtain. At least many of us here are show our real face and are not afraid of commenting opnely what we think. The world is worst place because of people like you who do not have courage to speak up openly. Grow up S.P whether you are Shambhu Prasad or Sane Pale or Sita Pahadi – who knows? There is nothing wrong for women to look for better husband and nothing wrong to advocate for love. Please get out of your cage.


  16. dovan

    Let me have my sociological perspective on this issue.

    Power and love ; I would rather say egotism and compassion;

    Men evolved as hunters and making the best shot and having bigger hunts counted .So they became more egotist and competitive and power hungry.
    Whereas women stayed home taking care of children, making strong bond with their
    neighbors. So co-operation and compassion were more valued.

    In todays society, a son is encouraged to focus on studies and excel but daughters are always burdened with a baggage of morals and manners (on behalf of herself and more on behalf of her family). So I think this has made women always think besides and beyond their personal excellence and therefore a little inefficient in the competitive power race.

    Between male and female , male is just interested to find a healthy female and plant his sperm.But, female who has added responsibilty to bring up child is also concerned with emotional responsibility of the male. “Will the male stay with her and help her in child rearing?”
    So besides good genes, she seeks love and loyalty in the male .

    But now, the scenario is changing. Our human society has been complex and sophisticated . Culture and education are playing bigger roles than animal instincts.

    Now man and woman both are getting equally involved in child rearing. (which brings a major cultural change)
    To survive in such a competitive world , both sexes have to be equally power efficient .
    Gender stereotypes are changing. Man is no longer a sole bread winner.

    This new world is not about personal excellence and power but networking , team spirit ,communication and synergie.
    So, Women have now the added advantage.

  17. S P

    What a worthless discussion! I will not be wondering whether I was too judgmental if I say, based on this single post, it is precisely because of people like you who think women’s education and professional advancement is so they can find better husband that Nepali society is lagging behind.

  18. Yestai Ho

    hoina yee dovan bahini kina yetti dherai feminist bhayeki hun? ke pareko chha yesto? khedo po khanchhin ta ho hami keta haru ko ta? darai lagyo malai ta..

    Good writing Dovan – please keep it up.

    Yestai Ho

  19. dovan

    Pursuit of power is a preening behavior. A power hungry man is no different than a preening peacock.

    Tangle of love is a genetic trick that hoodwinks our otherwise perceptive mind.

    At the end of story, we all want acceptance so that we can find the best possible mate and give our best version.

    Talking about power, I believe that women are natural leaders. (look at animal kingdom).
    But women have let poor man’s vulnerable ego play in this cultivated power ground.

    So it’s egotism and violence ruling than care and compassion.

    I think women should now drop the veil of humility and come forward to take charge and redefine leadership.

    Let drones be drones.

  20. Rajendra B.Shrestha

    The ‘love for power’ and ‘power for love’ can be described as two sides of a coin. Both men and women crave for power and love. The degrees of cravings could be different in men and women. Love in conventional sense is about craving for something for ourselves like attention, affection, adulation, approval and assurance. Where as Power on the earthly level is about craving for controlling events and people. My experience has been that men generally are crazy for power but they have no less craving for love and affection. I have seen many women who are after power to have control over the men. But, if I have to vote as to who has more craze for POWER, I’ll vote for men. My voting for craze for LOVE will be casted in favour of women. Thank you Rudraji for raising this issue.
    Rajendra B.Shrestha

  21. heretic

    Nobody wants love. Love is an ideal concept that both sexes use for their own gains. Men want validation. They label this love. Women want service and admiration. They label this love. The fact of the matter is: both sexes want power over each other. This is the reptilian instinct that was hardwired into us and it is not going to go away. In the real world, however, eventually it is women who have power over men.

  22. Binaya Neupane

    In regards the topic “In general, men want power and women want love”, I would like to say that both are two wheels of the cart and one is incomplete without other; both the Men and the women have to contribute equally. But… it is a fact that men are in hunt of POWER whereas women seek LOVE.

    If we broadly categorize the life style one can live, saansareeka [सांसारीक] and aadhyatmika [आध्यात्मीक] are the two major categories. One is nothing without the other; it is really a notorious piece of information. The instance may be regarding love, power, education, professional promotion, politics or what on earth have you but there are always limitations and exceptions. If we glimpse nature it demonstrates variety; what the title says is factual… no doubt about that.

    Unsurprisingly there are by birth certain realms in men as in women but not in both. Important here… is the conjoining of the realms’. We can insinuate by physical structure and/or mental state. Rather historically proven; men are tractable by women ;) and women are malleable by man :) .

    Women symbolize love, earth and faith whereas Men symbolize power, responsibility and ply.

    It will be my pleasure to salute *women for their love and sacrifices and for being earthly. On top of that let us toast Men for being apotropaic [having the power to prevent evil or bad luck] for them.

  23. deadkid


    if i may ask, what are your dimensions of ‘ultimate’ and ‘challenge’?

    the ultimate goal is to ‘breathe’


  24. YestaiHo

    Why are you against men? I do not think men just want power. I have seen men giving up everything for the sake of love. I think you are trying to generalize your experience and promoting women’s ego. Women have caused enough troubles trying to control men.


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