The worst decision makers are killers. With one decision, they jeopardize other’s lives, and sometimes their own too. Best decision makers are those who save lives by helping people in crisis.
Everyone makes a few bad decisions once in a while. Some of us repeat them very often and some of us learn from it and avoid making such kind of decisions in the future. What happens after a bad decision? How can we avoid bad decision? Should we be too careful? Should we avoid making decision because of possible negative consequences? These questions always make me ponder. I have made a few bad decisions both in personal and professional lives. I still regret everyday about some of the decisions that I have made years back. I feel like “Oh god – how dumb I was?” I wish I could recall those decisions. Obviously, it is too late to recall as damage has already been done. I feel like hitting my forehead against the wall and screaming out loud – “why did I do so?”
We learn from management books that one must make decisions to learn. But, some decisions are too costly that the lesson one learns from it is not worth the regret and depression one has to go through. For example, people make decision of breaking relationship with their spouse and do so emotionally without worrying much about the practical consequences. What they learn from such break-up is much less important than what they have to go through as a consequence of separation. Just to reiterate, it’s too costly a lesson to learn.
First love? I have seen young people departing from their parents in support of infatuation and so called “first love.” All crap! I urge all of you listen to parents and elders and not to surrender to so-called “first love.” First love is usually the wrong love for many of us. First love is usually an infatuation. Please do not submit yourselves to this course. For full disclosure – I got lucky here.
First job? This is the most important career decision. Many of us make mistake on selecting the first job. Smart ones correct within very short time and dumb ones stick to the wrong first job for a long time and spoil their career. This is the most important decision and please be very careful. My first job was at National Computer Center (NCC) in Nepal. That was my wrong decision. I quit job in a week. I do not yet know what would have been my career path if I had been working at NCC for five years.
Undergraduate degree? This is another most important decision of a person who gets an opportunity to go to higher study (i.e. beyond high school). I wanted to study physics after intermediate in science (I.Sc.) I had dream of being atomic physicist. My elders wanted me to be an engineer. I was really sad when I had to give up bachelors level physics study. I had no choice. This does not happen for youngsters in western countries. They get to study what they love to unlike the youths in eastern countries who do not have such luxury of deciding what they want. We do whatever our parents want. In my case, I gave up physics study and went for engineering. That was the most difficult decision for me. I am sure many of you go through this kind of situation. Please do not give up as easily as I did. Please argue with your elders for the sake of your interest. I do not want many of you go through what I had to go through. I could not give up physics book for the first two years of engineering study.
First business? I think many of us are entrepreneurs. Some of us succeed and some do not. One out of every hundred entrepreneurs last successfully first five years in a business they start. You want to be one out of that hundred. It won’t be easy as you will have to go through thousands of obstacles and face hundreds of nay sayers. That’s why when you start or co-start a first business, please make sure you make the right decision – right partner, the business that you know a lot about and the business that you have passion. My first passion was atomic physics – which I never could pursue. The second one was data management.
These are very complicated questions and I am learning everyday. Please do not rely upon my suggestions. I am not perfect. For full disclosure – my wife is better decision maker than me. I am already 50% wrong.