A request

Posted by: Aneesh Lohani

I’ve noticed people being disdained and slandered for what they say right here at EU. This isn’t the right way to communicate. It is, instead, a mirror image of our times where everyone claims legitimacy – whether it be integrity, knowledge, wisdom, judgments, conjectures, etc. The same also affects the political circles with each claiming to be the real representatives of the people, while not being able to work together and forgetting about the people.

People have been called losers for their comments here. The whole point of constructive debate is to point out perspectives with intelligent debates to change people’s minds or to introduce different angles to a story. That is the democratic way. It is natural for people to be opinionated for the very simple reason that the world is a plural one. Some may be misinformed, partial, principled and even dogged. Some may simply be using their democratic right to express their opinion, or others may have predilections and priorities. We can either urge other people to consider the alternatives by presenting convincing arguments or leave it at that. It is more diplomatic to agree to disagree than to try and agree with an altercation. Besides, who knows the ultimate truth. There are many who’ll argue that there is no such thing as truth and fallacy, but only perspectives.

On the other hand, the culture of winners and losers is an imported culture. In countries like the US, where every born man and woman has equal opportunities, there may be legitimate reasons to mock a failed soul in the pursuit of success. Even if someone doesn’t succeed due to lack of talent or otherwise, they are still human beings and deserve respect. The concept of winners and losers doesn’t apply to Nepal for the very simple reason that all the losers – a handful of self-proclaimed leaders – are the real winners here. Compared to other countries, one may be tempted to say that Nepal, itself, is a loser country and so all its denizens – by virtue of logic – are also losers.

The Nepali culture appreciates camaraderie and friendliness. Nepali people are also known to be unsuspecting, carefree and friendly around the world. Some may call that naievity or timidity. We are known to be accommodating and welcoming to our guests. Open mindedness is a celebrated virtue. We all know that there is no paradise or utopia. Life is a struggle everywhere and people have their limitations. What’s constructive is to work together despite these differences for something productive. A democracy doesn’t work if one can’t appreciate, or even acknowledge, that others are different, hail from multifarious backgrounds with different settings for their upbringings, education, influences, attachments, ideals, beliefs, likes and dislikes and practices. Maturity lies in acknowledging these eclectic mores of society and finding an appreciable foreground to converge. Or, we can always agree to disagree or continue debating sans slandering until we get bored.

Just that no one gets offended by the probable (who is this to tell me what it is all about Nepali syndrome), just think that this is about individual x and individual y who were playing tennis with the loser pitch.

Disclaimer:

This is just an opinion. The contents of this post and the implied personalities in it do not represent any particular post or anyone particular at EU. Please treat this as a request at your earliest manageable convenience, if at all.

A request was last modified: September 11th, 2013 by Aneesh Lohani
 

Blog Comments

  1. Rhonda Kafle

    Bout time they changed there ideas and get things worked out better and get things rolling forward with the country, come on work it out.

  2. bishwa

    why do intellectual minds shy away? they do have a point of view to change things… but still, comments like those made my “hyaa” here can definitely tempt someone to actually shut up and never give a s*hit about what’s going on and walk away… leaving things as they are..

    everyone has a point of view.. and they should be listened to.. i back up Aneesh Lohani with his views.

  3. Dhilung Kirat

    This article presents the real ‘.org’ feeling about EU.
    We should not be tempted to abuse the state of anonymity.
    Aneesh, you are right, this represents our time. It would be great to have more intellectual debates rather than mere sarcasms.

  4. sanjib

    Aneesh, yes I agree with you – the debate should be constructive and offense should be avoided. In the meantime, we must put forward our gut feelings. Had it not happened we would be reading, “Sun revolves around the earth”. But as you mentioned, DECENCY is a MUST!

  5. hyaa's a low life

    What a response. No wonder Nepal is run by low lives, criminals, uncivilized junk like hyaa. Look at the name he/she comes by. An ignorant passerby who somehow got access to the internet. Which cyber are you from hyaa. Chat room down? Got nodin’ to do?

  6. Aneesh Lohani Post author

    Thank you for your supporting comments, Prabhu, and Lava, for your pertinent perspectives on the issue. In a democratic society, criticisms should be taken positively. I was just urging that we stay clear of abuse.

    Still, some show maturity and digest abuse in a positive way as you have said. But, the same maturity could also have been used to show dissatisfaction in a positive way, short of using abuse (using euphemisms, instead for example).

    As mature adults, we must sometimes acknowledge certain sensitivities. The Swedish artist who drew a cartoon of Prophet Mohammad was using is democratic right to expression, but unwittingly offended a few. Both are exercising their democratic rights to self determination and respect for what they do. Democracy is not perfect, but it opens doors for constructive debates that can then be used to settle conflicts. And, while sometimes it’s tough to apply unconditional virtues in a conditional world, it’s good to at least acknowledge the same in principle. With that said, my job is done. The rest depends on how people take it – we can only point out different sides to a story.

    Thank you again gentlemen for participating in this debate.

  7. Lava Kafle

    Aneesh, your Article is superb in the sense it talks about democratic feelings in nepali Society. I have seen some bloggers here who were happy because people scolded, showed hatred against him/her which is the right democratic sense. As you implied: Nepalese need to change their thinking Patterns and understand democratic norms which allows others to show dissatisfaction on your comments, publications, ideas, and practices. Positive Thinking is what we need.
    Finally, not only Nepalese , but whole world should learn to accept verdicts of people, scoldings, posts,criticisms, and take it positively even if you or me is called a LOSER.

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