I’ve noticed people being disdained and slandered for what they say right here at EU. This isn’t the right way to communicate. It is, instead, a mirror image of our times where everyone claims legitimacy – whether it be integrity, knowledge, wisdom, judgments, conjectures, etc. The same also affects the political circles with each claiming to be the real representatives of the people, while not being able to work together and forgetting about the people.
People have been called losers for their comments here. The whole point of constructive debate is to point out perspectives with intelligent debates to change people’s minds or to introduce different angles to a story. That is the democratic way. It is natural for people to be opinionated for the very simple reason that the world is a plural one. Some may be misinformed, partial, principled and even dogged. Some may simply be using their democratic right to express their opinion, or others may have predilections and priorities. We can either urge other people to consider the alternatives by presenting convincing arguments or leave it at that. It is more diplomatic to agree to disagree than to try and agree with an altercation. Besides, who knows the ultimate truth. There are many who’ll argue that there is no such thing as truth and fallacy, but only perspectives.
On the other hand, the culture of winners and losers is an imported culture. In countries like the US, where every born man and woman has equal opportunities, there may be legitimate reasons to mock a failed soul in the pursuit of success. Even if someone doesn’t succeed due to lack of talent or otherwise, they are still human beings and deserve respect. The concept of winners and losers doesn’t apply to Nepal for the very simple reason that all the losers – a handful of self-proclaimed leaders – are the real winners here. Compared to other countries, one may be tempted to say that Nepal, itself, is a loser country and so all its denizens – by virtue of logic – are also losers.
The Nepali culture appreciates camaraderie and friendliness. Nepali people are also known to be unsuspecting, carefree and friendly around the world. Some may call that naievity or timidity. We are known to be accommodating and welcoming to our guests. Open mindedness is a celebrated virtue. We all know that there is no paradise or utopia. Life is a struggle everywhere and people have their limitations. What’s constructive is to work together despite these differences for something productive. A democracy doesn’t work if one can’t appreciate, or even acknowledge, that others are different, hail from multifarious backgrounds with different settings for their upbringings, education, influences, attachments, ideals, beliefs, likes and dislikes and practices. Maturity lies in acknowledging these eclectic mores of society and finding an appreciable foreground to converge. Or, we can always agree to disagree or continue debating sans slandering until we get bored.
Just that no one gets offended by the probable (who is this to tell me what it is all about Nepali syndrome), just think that this is about individual x and individual y who were playing tennis with the loser pitch.
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